Seek no perfection

 Eku deede iwoyio meaning Hello everybody!

It is already March and still quite chilly outside, but early signs of spring are starting to appear. Most noticeably, the plum blossoms are out, telling us that it will soon start to get warmer. Everyone here is looking forward to some nice sunny days and, of course, the cherry blossom!

I want to expatiate more on the 12^th on the list I gave last month.

Emotionally intelligent people won’t set perfection as their target because they know that it doesn’t exist. Human beings, by our very nature, are fallible. When perfection is your goal, you’re always left with a nagging sense of failure that makes you want to give up or reduce your effort. You end up spending time lamenting what you failed to accomplish and should have done differently instead of moving forward, excited about what you’ve achieved and what you will accomplish in the future. Just thinking about the event sends wreaks havoc on your body and can have devastating health consequences over time. The same happens when you seek perfection in others or your association and they did not meet your expectation. Let us learn to accept one another and try to do what we can to right what we think is wrong rather than running away and or causing more havoc.

Agbajo owo ni afi un soya o.

We celebrate with you if you were born in March. We wish you good health and prosperity as you march on in life.

Have a great month everyone!

Olusegun Thompson

Aare YAJ.

Emotional intelligence.

Eku deede iwoyi o meaning Hello everyone!

We are already in February and the year is running fast again and the clock is ticking.I will be talking on Emotional intelligence this year.As you may know that there are various types of intelligences. When emotional intelligence (EQ) first appeared to the masses, it served as the missing link in a peculiar finding especially into the broadly held assumption that IQ was the sole source of success. Decades of research now point to emotional intelligence as being the critical factor that sets star performers apart from the rest of the pack.

Emotional intelligence is the “something” in each of us that is a bit intangible. It affects how we manage behavior, navigate social complexities, and make personal decisions to achieve positive results. What follows are sure signs that you have a high EQ.

1. You have a robust emotional vocabulary.

2.You’re curious about people.

3.You embrace change 

4.You know your strengths and weaknesses

5.You’re a good judge of character.

6.You are difficult to offend

7.You know how to say no (to yourself and others).

8.You let go of mistakes

9.You give and expect nothing in return.

10.You don’t hold grudges

11. You neutralize toxic people.

12.You don’t seek perfection

13. You appreciate what you have  14. You disconnect

15. You limit your caffeine intake 16.You get enough sleep

17.You stop negative self-talk in its tracks 18.You won’t let anyone limit your joy

The 9^th on the list is very crucial to our association this year.

When someone gives you something spontaneously, without expecting anything in return, this leaves a powerful impression. Emotionally intelligent people build strong relationships because they are constantly thinking about giving others and in this case the association. We look forward for your support this year again.

We congratulate you if you were born in February, wishing you the best in all you do.

Have a wonderful month everyone!

Olusegun.

Aare YAJ

All Out.

Eku Odun eku iyedun.Odun yi yio yabo fun gbogbo wa o

Whatever your age is, I`m sure you’ve made resolutions; you’ve made goals, and often fall short of the stated objective, desire and/or objective.This year, drop resolutions and goals, they’re often painful and unmet.Refer to whatever it is that you want as: “my intended and expected achievement” Not just what the expected achievement is, but how you intend to make it happen.

Not just focus, but genuine drive and the allocation of time to make it happen.There has to be something specific that tells WHAT you want. HOW you plan to make it your reality. And WHEN you believe it will become reality as you look to “put” HAPPINESS, and “be” HAPPY in the New Year.The key word here is “all out.”

What are you going to be DOING all out?

What are you going “all out” to achieve this year?

And what does “all out” mean to you?

Why not add “all out” to whatever you write down so that you are determined to take some real action, and commit to an all-out effort to achieve for yourself? Seems pretty simple – challenge yourself to become better, and in some cases, become the best.

Let`s go all out for the association this year too.

We celebrate with you if you were born in this month wishing you the best of everything.

Have a wonderful month!

Aare Olusegun

YAJ

Influence & Multiply

E ku dee de iwoyi o! E ku ipalemo odun o yio bawa layo o.

It has been a wonderful year again and I am sure we all have something to be thankful for this year too.

I have tried to talk about Influence a lot this year and I will like to round up by expressing how influence can multiply. Here multiply means reproduce and increase. It takes a lot of listening, understanding, navigating, showing faith in others, empowering people to be a person of influence and to positively impact our association. Also as stated through the previous write ups that being an influencer means;

a.    modeling integrity with people,

b.    motivating people

c.     mentoring people

d.    Multiplying or reproducing more people like you for the association.

When you are a good model, you will motivate other people to want to emulate you and reach out to other people and mentor them as well. When the process keeps repeating, it will definitely have a great impact in every aspect of our lives and the association.

In other words a person of influence produces other influencers and growth comes only if we make it a habit.Thank you for reading.

If you were born in December, we celebrate with you and wishing you many many more in good health and prosperity.

Odun a yabo fun gbogbo wa o.

Segun.

Aare YAJ

Finding a Mentor.

Eku ipalemo odun o.

Since I have been fortunate to have had several life-changing mentors in my life, mentorship is a topic I explore frequently and I thought I should share it with you because we all need one. It's no surprise that having a mentor can be one of the greatest gifts you could ever encounter because they will influence you immensely. Finding a mentor may be hard, but believe me or not you don`t know where and when you will find one, which is the reason we come together from time to time. From a mentor, you are not learning in the logical sense. You do not show up to a classroom every day where the mentor takes to the dry erase board and proceeds to explain to you, in detail, everything you need to know. A real mentorship is where you put your full trust in someone else. You forgo your ego, you give up trying to prove how great you are, you throw caution to the wind and you, literally, follow them around. It takes guts to say, to someone you look up to, "I don't know what I don't know". 99% of people think admitting this is a weakness. This is why 99% of people miss the opportunity. The mentor/apprentice relationship is extremely emotional and not forever. You will move on when the path presents itself i.e an opportunity. This is why Yoruba adage says”Bi omode balaso bi agba,ko le lakisa bi agba”. The reason a mentor(such as baba mechanic) takes the time to teach someone younger, someone inexperienced, is because they see an opportunity. They see someone who is willing to put their ego aside to learn. Let us learn this as we come together.

We celebrate with you if you were born in November,igba odun,odun kan ni o.

If you did not have the time to join us this year, create the time next year, we are waiting for you. We love you and we need you. Have a wonderful November everybody!

Segun.

President.

Motivating

Hello everyone! E ku asiko yio.

It`s October and the beginning of many festivals and holidays toward the end of the year!

Don`t worry if you think you still have a lot to do, with proper planning you can still achieve your goals.As posted last month, modeling can be a powerful influence either positively or negatively and could be done from a distance. Sometimes you have to do it up close if you want to make a better impact and that is motivating them.

You will become a motivational influencer when you encourage people and communicate with them on an emotional level. This does two things:

1. It creates a bridge between you and them and

2. It builds up their confidence and sense of worth.

When people feel good about you and themselves during the times they are with you, then your influence increases significantly.

Once again, try as much as possible to tell people your opinion and also confirm whatever you may have heard. The message may have been misinterpreted and taken wrongly. Also messages sent here and other places are basically general and meant for the progress of the association and the members. A message may concern you, but you are not a target. If you were born in October, we celebrate with you and wish you your heart`s desire as the year is running to an end.

Remember to come join us if you have not done so, we need you and we love you!

Have a wonderful October everybody!

A o ko ere oko dele o.

Segun.

Modeling

Hello everyone!

It`s September everybody! What have you accomplished and what are you working on?

Who have you influenced and who has influenced you?If you meet people who don`t know you, at first you have no influence at all, but if someone they trust introduces you and endorses you to them, then you can temporarily borrow that person`s influence until they get to know you. But as soon as they have some time to observe you, you’ll either build or burst that influence by your actions.Your actions really count toward your growth and your associations.That is part of modelling.As we move to the ember part of the year, I want to say it again that what you do TODAY matters. Each day, I hope you`ll inspire, challenge, and equip someone.

As usual, if you were born in September, we celebrate with you. I`d like to use this; “You will be a DAILY CHAMPION, a VANGUARD of HOPE contributing meaningful quota to the NATIONAL LIFE that SAHARA will tell about THE NEWS….”

Thank you always for your support.

Have a great month everybody!

Segun.